I used to laugh at porn, I used to say it was too fake to arouse me. Then one of my lovers showed me some of your vids and it was sudden love. You're natural and sunny and playful and you smile, you're the living evidence of how much someone can enjoy sex and live it as a totally positive experience. I'm totally in love with you and I started following your tumblr and I found out you're also fun and clever and witty. hats off, Lady, you're an example to follow.
Thank you very much, Laura.
It’s always nice to hear positive feedback from people who’ve enjoyed my pornographic work.
I do hope you continue to laugh at porn though, if for a different reason. Sometimes I laugh when I’m making porn. I laugh when I’m having sex at home, too. I really believe sex should be fun, and it’s all pretty silly when you stop and think about it.
Stoya vs. Tumblr
A few weeks ago I emailed Tumblr with a request to be listed in their directory under the Sexuality category. Here is the full text of my email (with links added for your convenience):
My tumblr account is: http://stoya.tumblr.com/
My posts fall into one of three categories…
1) Photographs, blogs, and responses to questions that document or are
informed by my experiences in the adult industry as a successful
contract performer and sexual intellectual.
2) Re-blogs or posts that talk about and link to people (mostly women)
that explore sexuality (ie. Amanda Palmer’s Map of Tazmania video).
3) The occasional post about sewing/fashion (in my opinion pure
fashion has much to do with sensuality and the pursuit of appearing
more sexually attractive - not to mention the more blatant connections
between push up bras, fur, high heels and sexual response) and the
occasional book review (usually books such as “Wetlands,” “The Mating
Mind,” “Fast Feminism” and other texts which are of mostly sex theory
or gender role commentary).
… and that, ladies and gentlemen, is why I believe I should be
included in the Sexuality directory on your wonderful website.
Thank you for your time,
I didn’t hear back, aside from the automatic “We have received your email” email, so I asked my followers on Twitter to campaign for Tumblr (which has a twitter account) to list me.
You guys were absolutely great. I was flattered by your arguments and very appreciative of how many of you were willing to do something that requires a bit of effort when I asked you to. You’re awesome.
I’m still not listed, and here’s why:
A couple of days later Tumblr let all of their users know that they were getting rid of the directory. They cite the diversity of most users’ blogs as the main reason.
I’m counting this as a win, because while I didn’t get what I wanted, you all helped effect a change. Which is pretty freakin’ cool.
Thanks for the support,