Thank you very much, Laura.

It’s always nice to hear positive feedback from people who’ve enjoyed my pornographic work.

I do hope you continue to laugh at porn though, if for a different reason. Sometimes I laugh when I’m making porn. I laugh when I’m having sex at home, too. I really believe sex should be fun, and it’s all pretty silly when you stop and think about it.

A few weeks ago I emailed Tumblr with a request to be listed in their directory under the Sexuality category. Here is the full text of my email (with links added for your convenience):

My tumblr account is: http://stoya.tumblr.com/

My posts fall into one of three categories…
1) Photographs, blogs, and responses to questions that document or are
informed by my experiences in the adult industry as a successful
contract performer and sexual intellectual.
2) Re-blogs or posts that talk about and link to people (mostly women)
that explore sexuality (ie. Amanda Palmer’s Map of Tazmania video).
3) The occasional post about sewing/fashion (in my opinion pure
fashion has much to do with sensuality and the pursuit of appearing
more sexually attractive - not to mention the more blatant connections
between push up bras, fur, high heels and sexual response) and the
occasional book review (usually books such as “Wetlands,” “The Mating
Mind,” “Fast Feminism” and other texts which are of mostly sex theory
or gender role commentary).

… and that, ladies and gentlemen, is why I believe I should be
included in the Sexuality directory on your wonderful website.

Thank you for your time,

Stoya

I didn’t hear back, aside from the automatic “We have received your email” email, so I asked my followers on Twitter to campaign for Tumblr (which has a twitter account) to list me.

You guys were absolutely great. I was flattered by your arguments and very appreciative of how many of you were willing to do something that requires a bit of effort when I asked you to. You’re awesome.

I’m still not listed, and here’s why:

A couple of days later Tumblr let all of their users know that they were getting rid of the directory. They cite the diversity of most users’ blogs as the main reason.

Bastards.

(joking)

I’m counting this as a win, because while I didn’t get what I wanted, you all helped effect a change. Which is pretty freakin’ cool.

Thanks for the support,
Stoya

I answered this question privately for a friend via email this morning, but thought it may be relevant here as well:

“What’s with those porn clips where it’s like a fake dick cumming gallons of jizz on a girl? I mean, like is that a thing people are into?”

There’s a part in “Sex at Dawn” that talks about sperm competition.

The theory is that humans are naturally more like Bonobos than
Gibbons, so the biological idea is more to drown other dude’s sperm
with your own than it is to convince your partner to be monogamous.

Therefore, a man seeing women have sex with other men is a turn on.
Also, seeing HUGE amounts of sperm would be the heightened version of
a sperm competition trigger, just as those 48WWW sized ladies with
novelty chests are the heightened versions of natural attraction to
the female breast as a fertility indicator.

So yes. That is a thing that some people are into.

-Bookish-but-not-a-scientist-Stoya

P.S. As always, if you *are* a scientist and have corrections or extra light to shed on the matter, please feel free to let me know.

I can’t answer for any other female performers (or male or gender neutral performers that may have reason to wear lipstick right up to the sex part of a scene and then remove it) but I can explain my own motivations:

See, the directors want lipstick. I don’t know why. Maybe they think it looks better, maybe they think the consumer likes it better, maybe they just want a defined lip and neither they nor the makeup artists have caught on to this nifty new thing called lip stain. I just don’t know.

I don’t like eating lipstick. I don’t like subjecting my fellow performers in a scene to eating lipstick. I really don’t like a scene being stopped every five minutes so someone can wipe up all the lipstick that’s gotten all over faces, genitalia, and other body parts and then use that opportunity to ”touch up” my lipstick (which really means glob on a bunch more).

So we meet halfway. We compromise. It works.

Personally, I’d still take washed out lips over subjecting the person I’m sucking face with to the waxy taste of lipstick.